What To Do When You Feel Like You've Failed As A Parent

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As our children began to get older, it became increasingly clear that we were dealing with something much bigger than what we had realized when they were younger, and that it wasn’t so easily figured out after all.

We came to the realization that we were dealing with individuals. Not a formula or project to be accomplished, but people that were growing up and had entered the same battle of life that we were in!

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As parents, we should strive to always view one another through eyes of grace, remembering that God allows us to partner with Him in parenting the children He gifts us, and that, although He works through broken vessels like us, He is able to do His work in spite of us.

If you are in the same boat, here are some of the things that  we could do if you feel like you've failed as a parent.

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You did the best you could.

You did the best you could with the knowledge you had while raising your children.

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We are not perfect parents.

God is the only perfect parent.

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If there are areas of failure, you are forgiven.

Take some time and ask God to show you anything that you may have done that was not the best. Repent and ask for forgiveness of anything he may show you, then ask your children for forgiveness. God forgives you and so will your children!

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It's not all up to you!

Ultimately, God is the only one that can do a work in our children's heart. We do not have the power to do that work.

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There is not a list or a formula for parenting.

As parents we desperately want a formula -- a list of things to do that might guarantee that our children will do what is right. That formula does not exist.

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God does not fail.

God is good! Because God is the one who does a work in the heart of our children, even if you did fail as a mom, God has not failed! God is good!

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The story is not finished yet.


Yes. There is hope! God is good!

The process of raising children has been an amazing tool that God has used in my life. One that continues to humble me and has gently pried my once clenched hands that held onto ideals and intentions, forcing me to let go and release my agenda to God with open hands.

"but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint." Isaiah 40:31

Isn't it encouraging to know that God is good and that He really is in control? That He really does want what is best for us and what is best for our children - - even more than we do!

We must cling to the truth that God is good and that there is hope!

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